Uncontrollable memory allocation with TRIGGERS, PROCEDURES and FUNCTIONS

I have project with 8 databases, each 500Mb.
Each has ~800 tables, some of them with triggers.
Use ~100 stored procedures and functions.

Notices excessibe memory usage 128GB is not the limit.
Then HW limit is reached - OOM kills MariaDB

Prepared simple DB structure examples:
dSTAR16_MariaDB.sql (with 16 tables) - uses 2GB
dSTAR64_MariaDB.sql (with 64 tables) - uses 32GB
It is not linear (8 tables would be ~250Mb)

In such DB simple (imposible query) is enougth to massivie memory usage:

UPDATE jj001 SET vj001 = 0 WHERE 'TEJA' = 'FEJA';

Could not find server config variables that could limit such memory usage.

Tried script on hosting servers with shared MySQL/MariaDB service - all of them failed using this kind of script.

256 tables script (expected 512GB memory usage) would kill almost any server.