CMake cleanup: stop overwriting ZLIB_FOUND /ZLIB_LIBRARIES and similar

Apparently, it breaks when used with vcpkg.
There are more intelligent ways to handle that now: e.g create MariaDB::zlib library, which points (in sense of cmake ALIAS or INTERFACE library) either to standard ZLIB:ZLIB, or to own compiled zlib, and use it consistently instead of ${ZLIB_LIBRARIES}.
target_include_directories should be set consistently, and then it will help eliminate multiple ZLIB_INCLUDE_DIRS sprinkled around the code.

Do the same with OpenSSL , i.e create MariaDB::OpenSSL which points to either OpenSSL or WolfSSL, define it well (so that users pick up correct target_link_libraries and target_include_directories) and use it consistently in the code