Semaphore wait has lasted > 600 seconds. We intentionally crash the server because it appears to be hung.

i seem to get this with ANY slow query or even DDL instruction on a large table. It's compounded by the server then insisting on doing a crash recovery which seems to take hours.

today a customer's server was running out of disk space so i (foolishly) tried to purge some now redundant audit stuff with a "delete where like". And now my customer looks like being without a server for an entire business day.
After about 3 hours of crashrecovery i stopped the service (windows btw) and set innodb_force_recovery but that has crapped on the tables. so now having to fetch 65gb from off-site backup.

Is there a setting to suppress the initial timeout and 'intentional crash'?
Now i admit it was my fault for running such an expensive command today but that is really much too easy to crash a production server. And as i said i've had same issue doing DDL (alter table) on v large tables (50gb)