MDEV-25818: RSYNC SST failed due to busy port

This commit reduces the likelihood of getting a busy port on

quick restarts with rsync SST (problem MDEV-25818) and fixes

a number of other flaws in SST scripts, adds new functionality,

and also synchronizes the xtrabackup-v2 script with the

mariabackup script (the latter applies only to the 10.2 branch):

 1) SST via rsync: rsync and stunnel does not always get the right

    time to complete by correctly handling SIGTERM. These utilities

    are now given more time to complete normally (via normal SIGTERM

    processing) before we move on to using "kill -9";

 2) SST via rsync: attempts to terminate an rsync or stunnel process

    (via "kill" utility) are only made if it did not terminated on

    its own;

 3) SST via rsync: if a combination of stunnel and rsync is used,

    then we need to wait for both utilities to finish or stop, not

    just one of them;

 4) The config file and pid file for stunnel are now deleted after

    successful completion of SST on the donor node;

 5) The configs and pid files from rsync and stunnel should not be

    deleted unless these utilities succeed (or are sucessfully

    terminated) on the joiner node;

 6) The configs and pid files now excluded from transfer via rsync;

 7) Spaces in paths are now valid for config files as well (when

    used with SST via rsync or mariabackup / xtrabackup[-v2]);

 8) SST via mariabackup: added preliminary verification of keys and

    certificates that are used when establishing a connection using

    SSL (to avoid long timeouts and improve diagnostics) - by analogy

    with how it is done for the xtrabackup-v2 (plus check for CA file),

    while that check is skipped if the user does not have openssl

    installed (or does not have diff utility);

 9) Added backup-threads=<n> configuration option which adds

    "--parallel=<n>" for mariabackup / xtrabackup at backup and

    move-back stages;

10) Added encrypt-threads and encrypt-chunk-size configuration

    options for xbcrypt management (when xbcrypt is used);

11) Small optimization: checking the socat version and adding

    a file with parameters for 2048-bit Diffie-Hellman (if necessary)

    is done only if the user has not specified "dhparam=" in the

    "sockopt" option value;

12) SST via rsync now supports "backup-threads" configuration option

    (in server-related sections or in the "[sst]");

13) Determining the number of available processors is now supported

    for FreeBSD + mariabackup/xtrabackup: before that we might have

    problems with "--compact" (rebuild indexes) or qpress on FreeBSD;

14) The check_pid() function should not raise an error state in

    the rare cases when the pid file was created, but it is empty,

    or if it is deleted right during the check, or when zero is read

    from the pid file;

15) Iproved templates that are used to check if a requested socket

    is "listening" when using the ss utility;

16) Shortened some other templates for socket state utilities;

17) Temporary files created by mariabackup / xtrabackup are moved

    to a separate subdirectory inside tmpdir (so they don't get

    mixed with other temporary files, which can make debugging

    more difficult);

18) 10.2 only: the script for SST via xtrabackup-v2 has been brought

    in full compliance with all the bugfixes made for mariabackup (as

    it previously contained many flaws compared to the updated script

    for mariabackup).